Am I doing something wrong?

[ladydrace]

By advice from the health visitor, Pea should be sleeping outside as much as possible. (Or in this case on our balcony.) Supposedly it should be healthier and help him sleep.

Only problem is, I haven't seen him sleep any better out there. He wakes up just as often. So these days he doesn't sleep out there at all, because the more his tummy trouble bothers him, the more he wakes up. And when he wakes up so often, I want to be close to him. To prevent him from feeling it too much, I try to soothe him back to sleep the second he wakes up. If I manage to caox him back to sleep immediately, he doesn't need more than that. But if he starts crying, he wakes up so much he'll need rocking for 30 mins to fall asleep again.

Maybe it's just me being paranoid, but the health visitor seems to be unable to understand why I can't just leave him out there. It's not that I think he'll die if he cries for a bit. Trust me, he's allowed to cry when things suck (Like when he gets dressed. He HATES that.) but I just cannot let my baby lie there and just cry and cry.

Am I being overprotective?

Feeling very depressed and inadequate today. :o(

Comments

[lilyoftheval5.livejournal.com]

Well, my advice comes secondhand, from what my mother told me about brother and I.

Apparently she would come running whenever we went into tantrum or got upset, and stayed with us till we calmed down.
She soon realized that we are very smart and kept crying because we wanted the attention.
Her conclusion: let them cry and exhaust themselves to sleep.

It sounds callous, especially to a new mother with a young one. But soon, we learned that crying would get us nothing and slowly stopped.


The fact that he wakes up because of pain, most probably,.... I guess it's up to your judgment.

[lady-drace.livejournal.com]

I doubt it's the same thing. He doesn't stop crying when we pick him up. If he just wanted our attention, he'd stop crying when he got it, wouldn't he?

I know the idea, but I firmly believe that children this young aren't smart enough yet to get idea like that.

Just my opinion. Thanks for the input, though.