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Musings on sex and orgasms. Yeah.
Sep. 23rd, 2010 02:48 pmYes, this is another TMI post. You have been warned.
Having time to spend on myself has given me plenty of opportunity to explore my body and physical reactions. I've learned so many new things about myself in a very short time span that I've come to a few unexpected conclusions.
First of all, if anyone ever again claims that because I'm fat I must have body issues, I will bloody well film myself in my throes of passion while pleasuring myself and dare them to make that statement again. I haven't minded much in the past because I always feared deep down that they were right. But fucking hell if I don't love my body. A lot. Who cares about weight, stretch marks, skin issues or whatever when you can make yourself feel that good and enjoy every bit of your own body so damn much? I sure don't.
Secondly, I alwas sort of naïvely assumed that there was only one kind of orgasm. I knew already that the sensations were somewhat different depending on what was giving me pleasure, but now I've narrowed it down to 3 different types that I've experienced myself and been aware of. There are probably as many kinds of orgasms as there are people, but these 3 applies to me personally.
There is the point stimulated orgasm. Basically it means I touch my clit and practically nothing else. It was the first kind I knew of and have practised it with great pleasure for many years now. At first I couldn't climax unless I was on my front, tensing my leg muscles as much as possible and keeping my legs straight. Over the years I've expanded my options, but I still need to tense my legs to make it over the brink. That particular orgasm is mostly felt as a rushing/jerking wave from my groin to my scalp and back down again. Usually very powerful but with minimum effort. It also gives me substabtial stress relief. I like a nap after this but I can do without.
Then there is the internally stimulated one, which so far has only happened during sex with another person. I've not yet managed to bring myself off on my own like this with toys or whatever and I think I might know why. It's more of a full-body experience. I need someone to brace against and move with. I tense practically every muscle in my body, especially my abs, and with enough combined inner friction (g-spot stimulation isn't neccessary, but totally a bonus) and outer tension we have fireworks. Spots before my eyes, rushing in my ears, very visible blushing of my entire upper body. I feel it over my entire body and for hours after I'll still feel a pleasant buzz. This is also the only type of orgasm I can do multiples of. Strangely enough, despite the enormous amount of energy needed for this sort of activity, I often feel very energetic afterwards. Not much stress relief, but I suspect that has to do with the other person and all the feelings involved.
And now I've defined yet another one. Multi-stimulated. It's a bit of a mix of the other two, but completely doable solo. It's any outer stimulation I can think of (and I can think of a LOT!) and as much inner stimulation as I can manage on my own. This apparently ends up giving me an orgasm like a gunshot. Very brief spike of pleasure that brings me over but doesn't linger like the other two. But fuck I need a rest afterwards. It's like my spine melts and cannot keep me upright until I've at least rested a bit. And I've never been vocal on my own before, but I certainly am when I do this. Phew. Basically it's given me a whole new appreciation for areas of my body I wasn't even aware of. By being rough in some places and gentle in others it's like getting the best of everything. And things I thought would never turn me on can easily do so now if I do them just right. Not going to go into details with this. Just gonna say that many of my fanfics feel a lot more realistic now.
Basically, it's amazing what you can do with a little imagination and some time on your hands.
Now if only I hadn't been too busy having sex with myself to remember my doctor's appointment. Hmpf.
Having time to spend on myself has given me plenty of opportunity to explore my body and physical reactions. I've learned so many new things about myself in a very short time span that I've come to a few unexpected conclusions.
First of all, if anyone ever again claims that because I'm fat I must have body issues, I will bloody well film myself in my throes of passion while pleasuring myself and dare them to make that statement again. I haven't minded much in the past because I always feared deep down that they were right. But fucking hell if I don't love my body. A lot. Who cares about weight, stretch marks, skin issues or whatever when you can make yourself feel that good and enjoy every bit of your own body so damn much? I sure don't.
Secondly, I alwas sort of naïvely assumed that there was only one kind of orgasm. I knew already that the sensations were somewhat different depending on what was giving me pleasure, but now I've narrowed it down to 3 different types that I've experienced myself and been aware of. There are probably as many kinds of orgasms as there are people, but these 3 applies to me personally.
There is the point stimulated orgasm. Basically it means I touch my clit and practically nothing else. It was the first kind I knew of and have practised it with great pleasure for many years now. At first I couldn't climax unless I was on my front, tensing my leg muscles as much as possible and keeping my legs straight. Over the years I've expanded my options, but I still need to tense my legs to make it over the brink. That particular orgasm is mostly felt as a rushing/jerking wave from my groin to my scalp and back down again. Usually very powerful but with minimum effort. It also gives me substabtial stress relief. I like a nap after this but I can do without.
Then there is the internally stimulated one, which so far has only happened during sex with another person. I've not yet managed to bring myself off on my own like this with toys or whatever and I think I might know why. It's more of a full-body experience. I need someone to brace against and move with. I tense practically every muscle in my body, especially my abs, and with enough combined inner friction (g-spot stimulation isn't neccessary, but totally a bonus) and outer tension we have fireworks. Spots before my eyes, rushing in my ears, very visible blushing of my entire upper body. I feel it over my entire body and for hours after I'll still feel a pleasant buzz. This is also the only type of orgasm I can do multiples of. Strangely enough, despite the enormous amount of energy needed for this sort of activity, I often feel very energetic afterwards. Not much stress relief, but I suspect that has to do with the other person and all the feelings involved.
And now I've defined yet another one. Multi-stimulated. It's a bit of a mix of the other two, but completely doable solo. It's any outer stimulation I can think of (and I can think of a LOT!) and as much inner stimulation as I can manage on my own. This apparently ends up giving me an orgasm like a gunshot. Very brief spike of pleasure that brings me over but doesn't linger like the other two. But fuck I need a rest afterwards. It's like my spine melts and cannot keep me upright until I've at least rested a bit. And I've never been vocal on my own before, but I certainly am when I do this. Phew. Basically it's given me a whole new appreciation for areas of my body I wasn't even aware of. By being rough in some places and gentle in others it's like getting the best of everything. And things I thought would never turn me on can easily do so now if I do them just right. Not going to go into details with this. Just gonna say that many of my fanfics feel a lot more realistic now.
Basically, it's amazing what you can do with a little imagination and some time on your hands.
Now if only I hadn't been too busy having sex with myself to remember my doctor's appointment. Hmpf.
