cleaning: pro: mom in law will give the place a major once over and then you'll only have to up keep
con: if her idea of clean is more meticulous than yours you'll make yourself sick thinking what she thinks of you and how you're taking care of her son and grandpea
my advice: take the cleaning... you deserve it.... and what other people think of you is none of your business (yes, i typed that right.. go back and let it sink it... i have anxiety too and it's become a mantra)
boundries:
girlfriend... they don't exist with parents or in laws... best bet will be to ask hubby to set the boundries with her... he's her son and may take it to heart more.
anxiety:
sucks, plain and simple... if she does come, remember to breathe and try not to read into every action, comment or look.... tough, yes, i know... i totally hear ya screaming.... but don't let the visit be a lawnmower story (A guy wants to ask his neighboer to borrow his lawnmower... he frets about asking, thinks of all the things that can go wrong, how the neighbor will react.. gets defensive about how he would take care of the thing and anything that could happen wouldn't be his fault... gets himself so worked up and he's outside of his house picking up his mail, the neighbor says hi and he replies "keep your %&%$% lawnmower!!".... leaving the neighbor completely baffled)
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Date: 2009-05-11 01:31 am (UTC)cleaning:
pro: mom in law will give the place a major once over and then you'll only have to up keep
con: if her idea of clean is more meticulous than yours you'll make yourself sick thinking what she thinks of you and how you're taking care of her son and grandpea
my advice: take the cleaning... you deserve it.... and what other people think of you is none of your business (yes, i typed that right.. go back and let it sink it... i have anxiety too and it's become a mantra)
boundries:
girlfriend... they don't exist with parents or in laws... best bet will be to ask hubby to set the boundries with her... he's her son and may take it to heart more.
anxiety:
sucks, plain and simple... if she does come, remember to breathe and try not to read into every action, comment or look.... tough, yes, i know... i totally hear ya screaming.... but don't let the visit be a lawnmower story (A guy wants to ask his neighboer to borrow his lawnmower... he frets about asking, thinks of all the things that can go wrong, how the neighbor will react.. gets defensive about how he would take care of the thing and anything that could happen wouldn't be his fault... gets himself so worked up and he's outside of his house picking up his mail, the neighbor says hi and he replies "keep your %&%$% lawnmower!!".... leaving the neighbor completely baffled)