Gay children.

Here's the thing. Following the Coming Out Day I've been made aware of by my f-list, I've returned to some of the thoughts I've had for years about what I'd do if my kid suddenly said one day: "I'm gay."

Now, considering my generally open minded approach to the GLBT oriented, I hope I'll be able to handle it well enogh to not create a rift between my kid and myself. But there is a conversation I'd like to have with my child, if the day comes. And here I'd like to appeal to the GLBT people on my f-list for an opinion on whether this is even something that should be adressed (I could be all wrong, I haven't actually had to live the life of someone 'out' at all) or if I'm just being a silly mom.

Thing is: If Pea comes up to me in his early teens and says: "Mom, I'm gay." Just out of the blue with no hint of any attraction to anything but girls up until now, I think I'd ask him to think it over just for a little while, before broadcasting it to the world. Mostly for his own protection, as I know some of the ugly behaviour that will be pointed your way if you go out and proclaim yourself gay. I'm sorry, but the world today doesn't seem ready to accept everybody yet.

My reason for this reaction is not only that I wouldn't want him to subject himself to the hate, but also that it could turn out to be nothing. Most of us go through periods of being sexually attracted to everything that breathes in our hormone overloaded teens (and in my personal experience, even some items that don't) and if he's just going through a fase, I don't want him to have to explain himself over and over, if he ends up being with a girl after telling everyone that he's gay. Or worse, confirm some of those completely rifdiculous ideas that some people have, that being gay just means you haven't met the right girl yet, or something.

BUT! If my boy comes to me, say in his early twenties with the same claim, I don't think I'd need that talk. I could resonably assume that he's been out there, experiementing and getting to know himself, and I think I'd see it as a more... informed decision than the same message would appear 10 years earlier in his life.

Am I right to think this way? Any input would be much appreciated. THINK OF THE CHILDREN! (Or in this case, Pea. )

Another day without Pea.

Mum in law just picked up Pea for the day. I'm still not over my separation anxiety, which will probably occur every time I leave Pea with someone other than me or his daddy for several years to come. So I think I'll just sit here being miserable for a while and stare at my phone every two secs.

I probably should take advantage of the free time to do a little writing, but right now I can't seem to focus on anything but the fact that my baby isn't home. *sigh* Anyway, this day was supposed to be for me and hubby, so I hope I can get around to enjoying some Pea free hours soon.

In other news, I ordered in the first book in the Dresden Files series, and I can't wait for it to arrive.

Fanfic quote of the day

“Garak,” he replied, playing along for the sake of the game. “If that were ever to happen, I’d want it to be with someone who would remember it the next morning.”

“Trust me, my dear doctor,” Garak responded, dreamily. “When it happens, I’ll remember it for the rest of my life.”

From Goodnight, Mr. Garak by Jo. Z. Pierce

Am I being overprotective?

Ok, so Pea was at grandma's for about 6 hours. Apparently, out of the 6 hours, he spent 3½ screaming. I was stunned and upset when I heard this. Mum-in-law tried to call hubby, but because he had earphones in, he didn't hear it. For some odd reason, she didn't try to call me, although she ALWAYS tries to call me when hubby doesn't pick up! (Especially to tell the newest absolutely pointless family gossip... but I digress..)

So instead, she called her daughter, who came willingly enough and helped calm him down.

3½ hours!! Even when his tummy troubles were at their worst, he never cried for that long! And it's making me totally paranoid. Because the first thing MIL said when she saw the bottles we had prepared for him was: "He's not on solid food?" with clear disbelief in her eyes. We did give her some quick-mix porridge, but we're just slowly getting his stomach used to harder foods. After his tummy troubles, I've been rather manic about taking this slow. He's doing splendidly, but still. When she dropped him off, he had only had one bottle and apparently some of the porridge.

So now I'm really suspicious that the first thing she would have done when getting him home, would be to try to feed him something he wasn't ready for, and thereby shocking the hell out of his digestive system. I know for sure she made him drink something he never had before. It's nothing bad, but it's still foreign to his tummy, and I fear it might have made things worse. (Also, she acted like she was doing us a favour, giving him new stuff to drink. As if being with her for those hours wasn't different enough for him.)

I can't even begin to fathom what else would make him so upset. He usually loves all people and he didn't raise a brow when she picked him up, or the first few hours she had him. So I doubt it was some kind of fear of strangers. Could be teething, I guess, but we did give her the cool biting thingy that ALWAYS helps with that bit. Also, she has succesfully raised 5 kids, so one would assume she knows a few things.

What I really think is that MIL as usual assumes that she knows best. That her way of doing things is the only way. And she truly believes she's helping us by doing things her way.

So now I feel hurt and suspicious, especially because everything was fine with him when he came home.

Am I wrong? Or just paranoid? Or am I missing something?