Weight and midwife rant
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ladydraceDo thin people really think that fat people are automatically stupid??? That extra fat tissue has NOT clogged up my brain, thank you very much! I went to the midwife today, hoping for a nice chat about the baby and answering of a few questions, and instead I was given the (by now very much hated but all too familiar) lecture about how bad it was to be fat. Does she think I'm an idiot?? The very first thing I searched for on the web was what my weight would do to my child! And frankly, I found the effects tolerable, compared to other damaging factors like smoking or even not taking the right vitamins.
I don't smoke, drink, or do any kind of drugs (even though my last shrink seemed to think I was lying!!), we're on a sugar-light diet due to my husband's diabtes and I take my arsenal of vitamins every single day! I don't eat for 2, but I do eat when I'm hungry. Not when I feel snackish. When I'm HUNGRY! Jeez, like because I'm fat I don't know the difference?? Come on! If anyone should know about chalories, diets, exercise, blood pressure and everything weight related, I'm sure it's the fat people who've had it shoved down their throats by every person who knows anything (or even thinks they do) about it.
I sure as hell know my way around the diet mill. Not that it did me any good.
Personally I think I am doing the very best for my baby considering what limited resources I have when it comes to money or even mental health. I can't buy all perfume free products, even though I would love to. I can't buy the most trimmed of meats and the best of greens. I just can't. I have NO money for that! That bitch of a midwife should try a few years on welfare. See how she'd handle it!!
And just as an extra insult, she seemed to think I needed education (as in a course!) on how to breastfeed!! I've talked about everything baby-related at length with my mum, my sisters, my friends or basically anyone who would listen, and not ONE of them has ever mentioned any critical knowledge one must have before letting your baby suckle. How hard can it be???? The baby is hungry, guide it to the nipple and if it doesn't suckle or is smothered by the breast, you just solve it! Are new mums really that insecure that such a simple act is beyond their brain power?? Or is it the "she's fat so she must be stupid" thing again???
Bottom line is that I'm very dissatisfied with my midwife and I am SO glad she is not going to be the one I see next time or ever again. Not for years has anyone made me feel so lousy sbout myself or so insufficient. And my hopes of a home birth were shattered, again because I'm too fat. Hell, I can't even be allowed to give birth in water!! Never have I felt so fat and useless as today.
Thank you midwife, for bombing what little self esteem I've scraped together back to the freakin stoneage. Thank you so much. Bitch.
I don't smoke, drink, or do any kind of drugs (even though my last shrink seemed to think I was lying!!), we're on a sugar-light diet due to my husband's diabtes and I take my arsenal of vitamins every single day! I don't eat for 2, but I do eat when I'm hungry. Not when I feel snackish. When I'm HUNGRY! Jeez, like because I'm fat I don't know the difference?? Come on! If anyone should know about chalories, diets, exercise, blood pressure and everything weight related, I'm sure it's the fat people who've had it shoved down their throats by every person who knows anything (or even thinks they do) about it.
I sure as hell know my way around the diet mill. Not that it did me any good.
Personally I think I am doing the very best for my baby considering what limited resources I have when it comes to money or even mental health. I can't buy all perfume free products, even though I would love to. I can't buy the most trimmed of meats and the best of greens. I just can't. I have NO money for that! That bitch of a midwife should try a few years on welfare. See how she'd handle it!!
And just as an extra insult, she seemed to think I needed education (as in a course!) on how to breastfeed!! I've talked about everything baby-related at length with my mum, my sisters, my friends or basically anyone who would listen, and not ONE of them has ever mentioned any critical knowledge one must have before letting your baby suckle. How hard can it be???? The baby is hungry, guide it to the nipple and if it doesn't suckle or is smothered by the breast, you just solve it! Are new mums really that insecure that such a simple act is beyond their brain power?? Or is it the "she's fat so she must be stupid" thing again???
Bottom line is that I'm very dissatisfied with my midwife and I am SO glad she is not going to be the one I see next time or ever again. Not for years has anyone made me feel so lousy sbout myself or so insufficient. And my hopes of a home birth were shattered, again because I'm too fat. Hell, I can't even be allowed to give birth in water!! Never have I felt so fat and useless as today.
Thank you midwife, for bombing what little self esteem I've scraped together back to the freakin stoneage. Thank you so much. Bitch.
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Date: 2008-12-18 08:48 am (UTC)And just to add to my misery, she seemed very worried about the fact that I chose to have a baby while being mentally ill. Yes well, sorry about that, but at least I'm not like a few drug addicts I know have baby after baby, just to have them taken away!
My baby will be loved and cared for. And if they ever try to take it from me, I will seriously hurt them.
Also, she seemed not to take my husband into any consideration on that subject. Like he wasn't even there! Does she seriously think that IF I should get so ill I would need hospitals or something, that he would let his child starve???
GOD! I hate that woman...