Pics?

[ladydrace]

I just posted this on Tumblr, but then I realized that no one would be able to actually discuss it with me, so I'm posting it here too.

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I suddenly had the thought… if dick pics are so rampant in straight and gay male circles, what about lesbian circles? Are vagina pics a thing? Muff motifs? Pussy pics? Snatch snaps? Clam caps?

Comments

[whit_merule]

I... well, firstly, haven't ever heard of it, and my instinct would be to say it'd be breasts/cleavage rather than genitalia for women, but... um. That begs the question of why.

And I think it's that - surely even in lesbian circles - vaginas aren't the equivalent of penises.

Sending someone a picture of a penis says 'here is something that I can use on you'. Sending someone a picture of a vagina says 'here is something you can do something to'. Even in exclusively female-oriented circles... a vagina remains a passive symbol, I think? Breasts are something you can wield, dress, flaunt, lean forward to display - or, you know, in a less sexual way, lean your cup on, use to steady something again, you can use the bra as a handy couple of pockets, and so on. We can relate to our breasts, and use them. Vaginas... okay, so we relate to them a bit but usually only when it's explicitly sexual, and only by doing things to them.

A lot of the time, when men flaunt a penis, it's not about sex but about social interaction - about dominance in some way. It's a symbol of more than sex.

There's no way to make a vagina its equivalent. And even with all that aside.... even if you are thinking in a non-misogynistic way, thinking as somebody who likes vaginas, you'd be thinking about 'what can I do to that vagina to make it feel good'. It's still an object to be approached, rather than a subject that approaches you So sending a picture of a vagina just... doesn't equate, imo.

[whit_merule]

(also, look at you putting content on dreamwidth that is actually better for this medium rather than adapted-from-tumblr content. you're absolutely right: this place is better for in-depth discussions! I might have to, eg, post my next episode reaction here, maybe with links to a couple of reactions on tumblr that I found interesting and am in part responding to, that sort of thing.)